Hwasin: Controller of the Heart
- Hye Jin doesn't talk to me that way. - Why don't you go talk to her?
She always gets free rides.
Actually, I don't want to hear from you.
If you don't get good ratings, you should end the show. Hwasin isn't my show.
[Lee Kyung Kyu: Embodiment of Pledges]
I learned a lot. He told me to talk only about the movie.
He could be... the springboard to my success.
Totally unexpected.
Thank you, my father-in-law.
[Yoo Yeon Suk: Embodiment of Blockbusters]
I almost signed with a well-known entertainment agency
because I wanted to become a rapper before I turned 30.
[Showing her unexpected and unhindered charms!]
[All right]
I don't think you sing well enough to be a singer.
[Ryu Hyun Kyung: Embodiment of Many Talents]
He had a GPA that was in the top 0.8% in the country.
He doesn't look like a person who would cohabit with someone.
I did something cowardly.
I went to a swimming competition, but she was swimming much faster.
I pulled myself using the rails.
'I can't lose to a girl.'
He hit my head and said, 'You foolish boy.'
[Kim In Kwon: Embodiment of Productivity]
[Cowardly acts of unimaginable proportions!]
I've never talked about this on air.
- You sound like a child. - We are supposed to talk about it today.
I hit him and he glared at me. I'm sorry.
So unmanly.
- I did... - What is that?
- What do you know? - You hurt me.
Please stop that!
[13,345 Korean men and women participated in the survey]
[Honey, I thought you were being cowardly/mean when you did this!]
So... today's theme is very complex and mysterious.
I've noticed there are many different stories about this topic.
Yes.
'Honey, I thought you were being cowardly/mean when you did this.'
I've never talked about this on air.
I'm sure when he hears about it, he'll be really mad.
- You're talking about it for the first time. - Yes.
Is it okay to talk about it?
It's been about a year, so...
I like to bet, so I've done a lot of cowardly things because of that.
I went crucian carp fishing with someone and we made a bet.
Crucian carps are hard to catch. I caught something.
But it was a common carp.
A common carp has a mustache.
So I shaved it.
[World's first cosmetic surgery for the common carp]
It's hard to tell them apart.
- 'Hey, look at this.' - 'Wow!'
- Common carp are much bigger. - They are.
And it was bleeding right here.
- 'Why is it bleeding?' - 'That happened when I was reeling it in.'
It was bleeding on both sides.
[A mean act that turned a common carp into a crucian carp]
Can I tell you another story?
[Isn't he proactive?]
I stole a crucian carp from a fish farm.
I brought it to my spot in a black plastic bag and attached it to the hook of my fishing rod.
- And it was alive? - Yes.
And then I showed it to him as I caught it.
He looked at it.
He caught a carp later. When we compared our catch, they had different colors.
Carp grown in fishing farms are a little darker.
So I got caught cheating.
I have a sense of pride when it comes to fishing.
'I shouldn't lose a bet when it comes to fishing.'
Then you went ahead and stole a fish from a fishing farm?
No, it wasn't stealing. You shouldn't say that I stole it.
- But you used a trick. - I brought it. I didn't steal it.
I brought it after getting permission from the owner.
You sound like a child.
With things like that, men are--
But we are supposed to talk about mean acts today.
You have a sense of pride about fishing, yet you brought one from another place.
Look, Hye Jin doesn't talk to me that way.
[Talking about Han Hye Jin once again...?!]
[Then why didn't you bring her along?]
This one time... Should I talk about another one?
Of course. I knew you had many stories about cowardly and mean acts.
I think you are a beautiful person for having the courage to talk about them.
- You think so? - Of course.
We were drinking with him that night. And I was about to leave.
'Please, let me give you money for a cab,' he told me.
He offered me money, so I received it.
When I looked at it in the taxi, it was a 1,000,000 won check.
He gave me the wrong one.
- He thought he gave you 100,000 won. - Yes.
So I thought...
[Ah... what do I do...]
I went golfing with my friends and asked them, 'He gave me 1 million won. What should I do?'
'Of course, you should spend it. He wouldn't know,' they said.
'Okay? Okay? Right? Okay, right, then I will!'
I paid for everyone's golfing fees with that money.
The next day I got a phone call.
That I used a stolen check.
[And he became a criminal...?!]
[His friend reported it as a stolen check!]
They called me and said, 'Mr. Lee, the check you gave us was reported to be a stolen check.'
'I'll be right over!'
I paid them 1,000,000 won out of my own pocket.
He wanted you to learn from his experience.
Cowardly things that I've done relating to money.
- Is it entertaining? - Yes.
I'll stop if it isn't.
- Are you anxious? - I am not anxious.
- It's good. It's good. - Is it good?
- Entertaining? - Yes.
Could I tell you another one?
Can I tell you another one?
A friend of mine gave me 100,000 yen to buy him a lens for his camera.
100,000 yen is a lot of money. He wanted me to buy him a high quality lens with it.
- Turns out, it cost only 50,000 yen. - When you went to Japan?
- It was half the price. - So I kept the other 50,000 yen for myself.
And I...
left that lens at a hotel.
[Oh man...]
I came back and I gave him back the 100,000 yen.
I spent 100,000 yen and left the lens behind.
Let's see... so I lost 150,000 yen.
[The bitter end to a disgraceful act]
You have many more stories about cowardly or disgraceful acts, right?
There are many.
I think we could already call you the king of acting disgracefully.
I tutored many students to pay for my tuition.
I was so surprised to hear that his GPA was in the top 0.8% in the nation.
In order to make the parents feel satisfied
I took on delinquent students and charged them half-price.
When they wanted to hire a tutor for their kids but didn't want high quality private lessons...
There was a time when I tutored many students while charging them much less.
In my neighborhood, there was a very troublesome kid.
I think he was about two to three years younger than me.
His mom knew that her kid was a troublemaker. She wanted me to teach him English and math.
She wanted me to teach him to be a better person.
He was the best fighter at his school and had students following him.
Ah, really?
He, of course, was like...
He had scars on his face too.
You already could tell it was going to be tough.
I had no idea what to do with him.
At first, I was nice to him and told him, 'I went through something like that too...'
But he didn't change his ways, so I told him, 'Get down on your hands and feet!'
I looked around... and found a hockey stick.
He assumed the position, so I hit him with it.
It turns out hockey sticks are very powerful. I used a little force but it hit him so hard.
In that moment... he glared at me.
And I flinched.
And I hit him a few more times... a few more.
He groaned and the more I hit him, the more I became confident about it.
So I kept hitting him.
And he started to cry.
He's the best fighter in the school, but he didn't retaliate against you.
Because his mom told me to make him a better person.
- So she gave you the authority. - Yes.
After that, I put back the hockey stick and told him, 'Have a seat.'
I continued with what I was telling him.
After that I remained as his tutor.
But whenever I came to his house, he wasn't home. He wasn't.
After the hockey stick incident, I stopped tutoring him.
We lived in the same neighborhood and he grew bigger and gained more followers.
He became a gangster?
He was in the 10th grade and whenever he drank, his gang hung out with him.
- He led a gang? - Yes.
The hockey stick incident came back to haunt my memory, so I started avoiding him.
So I moved away from that neighborhood.
- Because of that? - Yes...
Oh my...
I'm sorry. I'm sorry... Let it go.
What's his name?
Jae Hae, let it go. Jae Hae, forgive me.
You wanted what was best for him.
When you see students smoking in your neighborhood, do you discipline them?
I discipline them.
- Really? - Yes.
- You really do? - Yes.
I saw a drunk guy yell at a waitress.
Everyone else was doing nothing. So I told him...
'Why are you doing that to her? Why are you yelling at her? Have a seat.'
I noticed he was afraid.
On air, I am often seen being angry and scaring people.
- You benefited from your reputation. - He was kind of afraid of me.
I told him to sit down.
He sat down and people around me applauded.
- Your reputation as an angry guy helped you. - It did.
He had a really hard time in his past because of his TV program 'Conscience Refrigerator.'
Yes.
Because of his reputation when he was hosting that show.
There was one time when I parked my car in a wrong spot.
I think someone's vehicle couldn't move because of it.
I went to my car and as soon as he saw me, he said...
'Hey, how dare you park your car like this when you are the conscience of roads?'
I turned around and thought, 'conscience of roads?'
He poked at my most sensitive spot, so I grabbed him by the collar.
I told him not to say that. And when someone does that, you're supposed to be scared, right?
As soon as I grabbed him, he started punching me!
He punched me so many times.
'I punched the conscience of roads today!'
He punched me, but I didn't want to punch back.
Because I am 'the conscience of roads.'
If he'd fought back, they would've canceled his show.
Why did you grab his collar then?
You were 'Mr. Conscience Refrigerator.'
Even if I might be the 'conscience of roads,' I can make mistakes, you know?
But when he mentioned the name of the show I was hosting, I got angry.
When men get into a rough situation, we have a foreseeable outcome in mind.
When he grabbed him, he should've said, 'What are you doing, man?'
'What are you doing? You are the conscience of roads!' I thought he would react that way.
But he started swinging instead!
You had no idea.
Men expect the other person to grab their collar too.
- Men don't like to-- - So you don't start punching right away?
Things could become really serious, so men don't fight unless they must.
When you grab them, they grab you too.
That's what happens and
when someone tries to break up the fight, it goes on a little longer.
We kick each other's feet.
Then it's over and that's how it usually ends.
When they swear at each other a lot, usually they don't fight.
He punched me so many times.
[Seems he still holds a grudge about it...]
I wonder when Yeon Suk has acted cowardly.
I think he might have done so many things that are cowardly.
- In my case... - [With expectation]
- My girlfriend... - Hold it. You can't think fast enough?
[Lee Kyung Kyu... Is he a springboard or a black hole for my success?]
I can't seem to come up with...
Isn't there something amiss about him?
- So that's what you meant. - That's what I meant by it.
[But he is still a handsome guy who's a tiny bit deficient]
Slow down and take your time.
When you are driving on a narrow road, there are times
when two vehicles have to stop and face each other, right?
Now it's about who will yield.
As a man, I don't want to be the one who yields.
You have to be extra careful when you come face to face with large sedans.
If their windows are tinted extra dark and they flash their headlights and honk their horns...
You have to be extra careful.
In cases like that, it's almost certain the driver is a gangster.
At times like that, I yield the road to them pretending I have to do it.
But if my girlfriend is sitting beside me...
It'd look bad if I yielded just because they flash their headlights at me.
I thought about how I should handle it.
My car windows are tinted a lot as well.
Since they can't see me, I raise my voice.
I curse and yell at them.
- You swear at them. - I do.
You say stuff like that when you are really, really angry.
- Because she's sitting beside you. - Yes, yes.
I stay angry until my girlfriend asks me to cool it.
That's when I say, 'If I wasn't a celebrity, I would've gotten out of the car.'
'I'm yielding the road because I don't want to be on national news.'
But you know, even if I got in trouble, I don't think it would be on the news.
- You're not that famous, you know? - I'm not, but that's what I say to her.
'I'll yield so my agency won't have to deal with a big problem.' Then I yield the road.
'Only because of that...' I think this is when I'm acting a little cowardly.
I went through a similar experience as well.
I speak in dialect when I am angry.
I paid 1,250,000 won for a used car when it cost only 300,000 won. A good one too.
It wasn't a bad car and had a good engine too.
It was a stick shift and I'm really good at driving those.
And people looked down on me a little because I drove a small car.
There is some of that going on in our country.
I changed lanes forgetting to turn on the turn signal.
A car followed me closely and drove up right beside my car, and the driver yelled...
He rolled down the window and cursed at me.
And... I flared up and started speaking in my dialect.
I lowered my car window and told him, 'I got it, all right?' And I stepped on it and drove away.
Didn't expect him to follow me.
I drove away and he followed me.
'Oh, look at that,' I said to myself and drove away even faster.
But I came across an uphill road.
- Oh, an uphill road... - It was an uphill road ahead.
From fifth gear to fourth gear, from fourth gear to third gear.
And he came closer.
He blocked my car. My car had a rear-view mirror held together by black duct tape.
Your side-view mirror too?
Why would I repair a car that's worth 300,000 won?
He punched out my side-view mirror. I got out because he started punching the windshield.
I got out of the car and said, 'Why, why?'
He grabbed my collar and dragged me to a police station.
We went there and I was freed after admonition.
He was so harsh about it, so I had to say something to him, you know?
I told him this.
[What did he say to him?]
[What... could it be?]
'You stretched my clothes. Can you pay for that?'
- Oh my... - He said he won't.
'How about 40,000 won?' He said no.
'How about 30,000 won?' I asked.
I lowered it to 20,000 won, but he still said no.
I felt so upset that he stretched my clothes. I didn't care about the mirror.
- You knew you couldn't overpower him. - I knew that I couldn't overpower him.
I felt so upset about my over-stretched clothes.
It's because he grabbed your collar, right?
He grabbed me like that and took me to a police station.
[In Kwon's cowardly act that you cannot dislike]
I think I am mean when I break up with someone.
- When you break up with someone? - Yes.
I handled it differently before and after I was 25 years old.
Before I was 25 years old, I just disappeared from his radar.
I couldn't face him and tell him that I wanted to break up with him.
[Displeased]
I couldn't get myself to talk to him about it, let alone face him.
- So you turned off your cell phone? - Yes.
You tend to cut off every form of communication.
When I think about it now, I regret that I did it.
At the time, that was the only way I knew how.
So you were always the one to dump them? Have you ever been dumped?
No, I haven't been...
- You dump them right before they dump you. - Yes, yes.
- You can't stand being dumped. - I can't.
I am not like that now, but...
when we grew too familiar with each other
and neither of us felt that excitement anymore...
I felt so hurt by it, so...
Whenever I felt that the spark was gone, I disappeared from his world.
When you two grow familiar with each other and the spark is gone too?
[That's scary...]
- Hoping he would just give up? - Yes.
Now that I'm in my 30s, I realize it's good to grow familiar with one another.
That there is something good about feeling comfortable with one another.
At the time, I just couldn't stand it.
These men are staying with their wives only because of such familiarity.
Because I've known you for a long time.
I'll love you and only you.
What does it mean to grow old with someone?
[Kyung Kyu impersonating Cho Yong Pil!]
[Love is about familiarity...]
Please tell us in detail how he reacted to it.
- How long did you two go out? - I went out with someone for about 2 years.
I went out with another man for a year before that.
We used to feel excited to see each other
but one day I noticed he was treating me indifferently.
- He used to love me like the apple of his eye. - 'Loving her like the apple of his eye.'
- Did you go out with an elderly man? - No, no.
[It sounded like something an elderly person would say?]
You say things like that to your grandchildren.
- He is still alive today, right? - Did he give you silk as a gift?
No, for example, it was like this.
I love watching movies, but one day he refuses to go to the movies, saying he's broke.
At that moment, I thought he shouldn't be doing that so I disappeared from his radar right away.
- Because he said he's not watching a movie? - No, because he didn't have any money.
No, no. No, no.
No, no. He could've said it in a nice way but he said, 'Let's not watch it.'
I felt so hurt because I was young.
I thought it meant our relationship was over.
I disappeared from his radar and went to a foreign country and came back a month later.
[You've got to be kidding me!]
I am close friends with Choi Kang Hee.
They always went to talk to her to ask about me.
Kang Hee told them, 'Why didn't you treat her nicely when you were with her.'
- She relayed the message for you. - She took care of my mess...
Oh, what is that?
You left them without even giving them any reason?
Well, I was... wait, why are you being like that? We didn't even go out!
I feel so painful just listening to it.
Wait, wait, I think when you two were making movies together...
The way he reacted is how a man would react to someone he felt attracted to.
- Why are you like that? - Right.
That means you left him because of what he did.
Kyung Kyu is smiling delightfully at them.
Thinking, 'This might be a big issue.'
He's not saying anything, right?
The way you talk about it--
- So are you afraid it might happen to you? - I went through something like that.
- She didn't-- - I said I used to do that before I was 25.
I also --
She said she doesn't do that anymore, so you don't have to worry about it.
See? Isn't there something amiss about him?
- That's what you meant. - That's what I call 'being slow.'
For the man, it could be a little frustrating.
How did you handle a break-up after you turned 25?
After I turned 25, I dated only two guys.
- How did you break up with them? - I emailed them.
[Wow]
- You've improved a lot. - I have improved a lot.
Did you write a detailed message or was it simple?
'Bye.'
So you've never broken up with someone by talking to them face to face?
Look...
Don't say anything if it doesn't concern you.
- What did you say-- - What did you say in the email?
Since I wrote them at night, I wrote emotional and sensitive messages.
I started in a reminiscent tone.
'I loved those times we spent together...'
I am so mean...
In a reminiscent tone, 'I loved those times, but I don't think we are meant to be.'
'That we are getting into many arguments...'
'I hate that we keep hurting each other...'
[So articulate]
Have you ever broken up because you got into an ugly conflict?
I've never.
And I am sure he called me a lot of names.
Don't you need to be responsible and talk to him in person to say how you really feel?
Because it's hard to convey what you really want to say through a written message.
I wrote everything I needed to say without excluding anything.
I wrote that I appreciated that he made me into a good person.
Packaging it like that.
- When I was in the military-- - Please stop!
My girlfriend of two years wrote me that we should break up when I was a recruit.
Do you mean she should've visited you and told you that?
No, she, she... told me that I should volunteer to serve in the air force.
She told me I should join the air force, but as soon as I got there
she wrote me a letter saying that we should break up.
I felt so hurt. I spent two years and three months saluting like this.
[Poor Yeon Suk... what should we do?]
Something is definitely amiss about him, right?
I've never seen a guy who volunteers to serve in
the air force just because someone said that.
Why did she say you should go serve in the air force?
She lived in Seongnam city and since there is an air force base close to Seongnam...
She told me she'd come visit me often and the air force gives you many vacation days.
This is the first time a guy went to a military base that's close to his girlfriend's house.
[As if choosing his elementary school...]
'You serve three months more, but...'
In the military, a day feels more like a...
- A year? - Yes.
Regardless, I volunteered for them because I got to see my girlfriend.
I guess she had to move.
No matter how many letters I sent her, she didn't reply to me.
I won a contest and got a phone call privilege and she still didn't answer my phone call.
Such a sad story--
She probably thought, 'Did he really do it? I was just saying...'
I heard she met another guy.
What did she say in the letter?
I read it and...
[A Total Shock!]
'You are doing well over there, right? I am sure you are.'
Yes, saying that she's confident you are doing well.
'I think you'll handle it well because you have a positive mindset.'
'But...'
'I am sorry to say this...'
'It's just too hard for me,' she wrote.
'I think this is the end of us...'
He's teary just thinking about it.
- Cry, cry. - Cry.
Yeon Suk, cry. Cry.
[Feeling the emotion...]
[You are actually doing it...?]
[Can't even hear his question]
It was about...
Let's do a skit with me some time. He's good at that.
He is a good actor.
That was the first letter I got when I was enlisted.
On my first vacation, I went to see her.
I talked to her and realized it was hopeless. And about the time I needed to return...
I just couldn't let her go.
I returned to my base and, blocking my caller ID, called her and said, 'I didn't return to my base.'
I thought saying something like that might help her change her mind.
'I didn't return to my military base, so...'
'No, it's just not going to work,' she told me flat out.
She said not having me around after two years with me was so hard for her.
And when a guy came into her life and treated her nicely--
Wasn't he someone who knew about you two?
- I knew who he was. - Of course.
- Really? - Was he an elderly gentleman?
We found that a lot of women have a hard time being alone in our recent survey.
Ah... yes, yes.
On the other hand, I thought...
'To some degree it's my fault that I am not beside her.' I did think that at one point.
Kyung Kyu wanted you to cry about it.
[You can't even cry about it?!]
You should've cried your eyes out.
[Displeased]
Could've made it to the preview.
You should've pretended as if you were acting and finished it with a video message for her.
Send her a video message, a video message.
You should've done that, but you talked about nothing.
[I guess I was being amiss about something again...]
Hyun Kyung, you sent an email and it was a clean break for you.
It happened that way once, and another guy came to see me and everything.
At times like that, I always let my mom do the talking.
Your mom?
- 'Mom, I think he's here.' - My girlfriend did the same thing.
Did your mom talk to him for you?
She asked him to go back home.
And you've never wanted to start over with any one of them, right?
I felt that way once... with the guy who told me we shouldn't go watch a movie.
You wanted to start over with him?
I couldn't find anyone better than him.
Right, you realized that after.
I regretted that I'd made a dumb decision.
When I called him some time later, he had a girlfriend already.
- Hyun Kyung, can we check your answer? - Yes.
'I disappear when I want to break up with someone.'
Let's check the answer.
[13th place for women]
It's in 13th place for women.
'I disappeared from his radar because it was too painful to go through a break up.'
I think Hyun Kyung needs to be dumped that way by a guy to know how they felt.
- Men who disappear from your radar. - Wait...
Did someone break your heart in a nasty way? That might be why she did that.
Before you handled it that way.
My ex-boyfriend did this to me before.
There was a guy who would tell everyone else at the party that I wasn't his girlfriend.
Was he a TV personality?
[Oh...]
- I think he was. - He had to be a TV personality.
- 'She's someone I know,' he probably said. - 'She's someone I know,' he told others.
'Oh, why would you do that to me?' I asked him.
He liked me a lot so he wanted to have dinner with me.
And it turns out his parents were there waiting.
So I thought, 'Oh what's this? I think it's getting serious now.'
It would make you think that he's interested in marrying you.
Parents of my friends tend to like me a lot.
Yes, you are very adorable.
It was a good time for everyone that evening.
We talked for a few days and he cut off any contact with me all of a sudden.
- He disappeared like I did. - That means his parents disapproved of you.
No, no, so I asked him.
When I sent a message through his friend that I was going crazy, he replied.
He told me they went to ask a fortune teller if we have good marital compatibility.
He couldn't tell me about that, so he disappeared on me.
- That was... - Not nice at all.
- Good thing you broke up with him. - He cut off all contact with me abruptly.
- Because of your physiognomy. - Yes, because of that.
Did you have a chance to work on a TV drama together after that?
[Ah...]
It could be pretty awkward when that happens.
- Fortunately... - [Fortunately, I never ran into him...]
I see you met him while working together on a TV drama.
On top of that, the profile information that he used was a wrong one.
I was born on October 10, but my grandfather wrote down October 17 because he was drunk.
[Registered her birth while he was drunk?]
- I think you have some feelings left for the guy. - No, no.
Anyway, he used my wrong birth date.
After I was discharged from military service, I felt too traumatized to date again for a while.
- After that happened? - Yes.
I found a new girlfriend after a while.
I liked her a lot and I liked her style, so I always paid for both of us.
As a guy from Gyeongsang Province, I said, 'Hold it. I am paying for this.'
I told her, 'Women aren't supposed to pay for things like this.'
And she sometimes volunteered to pay for my coffee.
After doing that for a month, my credit card bill was about three times more than before.
So, I was wondering what I should do.
After a few more months of dating, she started not bringing her wallet whenever we went out.
She didn't?
- Because you paid for everything? - Since I paid for everything.
She didn't even bring her purse.
Even if she brought it, she left it in the car.
I wondered why would she not bring her purse with her.
Of course I would pay for her, but it was like this...
'Hold it. I will pay for this.' I wanted to be able to say that to her.
You don't want to pay for it by default.
That's what I wanted...
- It's for your satisfaction. - Yes.
At one point, she didn't even bring her wallet.
It's not that he enjoys paying for it.
On top of that, I couldn't pay off my credit card debt.
But because I am a Gyeongsang boy, I couldn't talk to her about it.
I wondered what I should do...
I went to eateries that didn't take credit cards.
On purpose?
- Like food kiosks. - [So unmanly!]
Ah, seriously.
She wasn't good at budgeting her money, but she wasn't extravagant either.
She liked simple things as well.
'How about going to a kiosk?' I asked her and she said she liked doing that very much.
Before we placed an order, I checked to make sure they didn't have a card machine.
He's not unmanly, he's just mean.
[Everyone agrees]
After we ate, I handed over my credit card.
They said they don't take credit cards. I pretended I couldn't understand why.
'What do I do? I brought only my credit card. Where is the closest ATM?' I said.
That's when my girlfriend said, 'It's OK, sweetie. I'll pay for this one,' and she opened her wallet.
It worked only for that occasion and I couldn't keep using that trick.
[Perfectionist when it comes to things like this]
You shouldn't say something to me because I disappeared on someone.
Makes sense why she dumped you.
She asked me, 'Since you are a TV personality, don't you make a lot of money?'
I told her, 'You know, I do a lot of projects, but being a celebrity is a fool's gold.'
That was such an honest answer.
That's the answer.
The important thing is being a celebrity is fool's gold.
We have fool's gold here. Everyone here is a fool's gold.
[Laughter amongst fool's gold]
We went out for over a year.
I was like a fool's gold for over a year.
We went out for over a year and the money thing was too much to handle.
I couldn't come up with other tricks either.
We went to drink one night.
Because I am an actor, there are times when I exaggerate how I feel.
[You are kidding me...!]
'I am so happy because I get to spend a lot of time with you, but...'
'I like it so much and...' This is when I need to take a pause.
What you learned in acting classes.
'I like that so much...'
You take a drink.
[Uttering a sigh]
I take a drink. And that's when she says...
- 'What's wrong?' - 'No, it's nothing.'
'Tell me about it.'
'Actually, you know, I have...'
'a little bit of debt...'
[A fool's gold]
It's a good line delivered well.
After taking a pause?
'My... bank account is in the red. I need to pay off... 9.8 million won...'
'But I can still spend money for you... because I can work hard and make more money...'
[Amazing]
'Because I love you.'
And then I cry.
Oh, you cried too?
Before that, I made her think I was the kind of guy who would never cry.
And then one day--
- Capturing her attention. - Yes.
After I did that, she paid for both of us.
Wonder what you would be doing if you weren't an actor?
You found a good actor. He's good!
[Treating fiction like reality and treating reality like fiction]
My acting has a practical application.
The god of unmanliness, Yoo Yeon Suk.
I am really curious about something...
Have you ever used your acting skills when you were dating someone?
Yes, I am sure. I am sure some people do.
I have used it that way before.
[Really?]
[Really? I haven't done that]
[I think it's just you...]
When my girlfriend wanted to break up with me, I use my acting skills.
Like how?
- How would you use it? - I would use it...
- Actors are... - He sounds like a con artist.
I have a busy schedule, so sometimes I can't spend time with her even when I want to.
She struggled a lot because of that, because she had to wait a lot.
She wanted us to take time apart and we spent a few days not calling each other.
But I wanted her back in my life.
I thought it was going to take talking in person rather than texting each other.
I needed to get in the right mood for it, so I drank some soju.
I was drinking it.
'Ah, I...' I started talking.
'I was so happy that you were my girlfriend. I'd like you to continue to be my girlfriend, but...'
[Sigh]
[As if watching a scene from Hamlet]
That's when I need to take a pause and look down.
After that, when I look at her again, I need to be a little teary.
If I need to, I use my saliva as my tears.
My eyes are teary and that's when I say to her...
'Even if it's hard for you to wait for me, could you stay beside me?' I asked her.
That's good acting.
- You've broken up with her now, right? - Yes.
How come you didn't perform like this in my movie?
He didn't perform as well as he did just now?
What a frustrating guy.
Why don't you use today's performance in your movie?
Today's theme is about being unmanly and acting cowardly.
He told us he had nothing to talk about it at all.
- He wanted to help the show. - He's helping it so much.
That was a mean thing to say.
[He was the king of meanness even before the show today?!]
Because I played a character who is mean and cowardly in 'Architecture 101.'
I was worried about being known as someone who's really lousy.
Yes, that's why he thought he should not talk too much about it before the show began.
He made it worse.
- He says everything about it. - Mr. Lee, what should I do?
- Because he's a bit slow. - Because of that, he told us everything.
I am sure you have dated quite a few women, right?
I always tell her she's my third girlfriend.
[Getting worse by the minute!]
There is a reason for it too.
She won't even believe it even you told her she's your first one.
Makes you look like a greenhorn.
As a 30-year-old, I may look strange if I told her I've never dated anyone.
Why not a second one?
If I tell her she's my second girlfriend, I may look like I am inexperienced and unattractive.
If there were too many, I may look like a reckless person.
So she's my third one.
'You are my third girlfriend.'
'You are my third one, but I hope you are my last one.'
[Hates it]
By the way, what's the difference between being obsequious and acting disgracefully?
Being obsequious is when you set aside your pride for your goals and family.
Acting disgracefully is when you deceive someone.
Acting disgracefully usually creates victims.
Being obsequious means only you suffer.
In his case, he is an example of someone who is...
being disgraceful.
So you're saying stealing from a fish farm wasn't disgraceful?
[Shaving a carp wasn't cowardly...?]
It's one of the pleasures of life.
How could you compare my case with yours?
Is it disgraceful to use someone as a springboard for success?
It's being smart.
[A man with endless mystery]
[Yoo Yeon Suk is the best!]
There was a time when...
I didn't feel a sense of certainty about my boyfriend.
I wasn't sure if he was my boyfriend, but I liked him enough to keep in touch.
We weren't in a TV drama together, but...
[So, a TV personality...?]
He was a younger man whom I met... outside of work.
He approached me.
- So you didn't work with him? - No, I didn't.
We met outside of work by coincidence.
He was so healthy, vibrant, and refreshing.
He approached me in a very straightforward way.
- I know who it is! - Who is it?
- I know who it is. - How do you know?
- He's tall, right? - No.
- Right? - You are so mean.
You be quiet.
That's being mean when you interrupt when someone's talking.
'He's tall, right?' That is mean.
Let's say there was a tall guy too.
So this young guy approached you when you already had a boyfriend?
At the time, my boyfriend would tell me, 'You don't look so good.'
'You have so many wrinkles. You'll have so many wrinkles when you get old,' he told me.
Around that time, the young guy came to talk to me.
How did he approach you and talk to you in a straightforward way?
'I like you so much!' he told me.
- Without any pretending? - Without any pretending.
And he knew you had a boyfriend?
He was like, 'Doesn't mean you can't get a goal because there is a goalkeeper.'
- He had an cheerful tone of voice too? - Yes, he did.
He made my heart flutter.
[My heart started to pound again...]
Having spent more time with him, it was so apparent that he was a young man.
And his vibrant energy didn't last much longer either.
- So you got bored of it. - No, it wasn't that I got tired of it.
Because he was much younger than me, we couldn't have meaningful conversations.
Besides his energy, you didn't find him attractive.
No, I didn't find any other attractive qualities about him.
And you went back to your boyfriend as if nothing happened, right?
No, so I... I went back to him.
Do you still run into that young guy?
He calls me sometimes.
- He is just a friend now? - Yes.
When young guys approach ladies, they feel the refreshing energy they bring.
- I can totally understand... - My idea of an ideal man has changed.
My ideal man used to be a guy who makes me feel sympathy and maternal affection for him.
Now it's a man who's untainted, healthy, and... a younger man.
- Let's check your answer. - Yes.
'When I wasn't sure about my partner, I felt an attraction toward another person.'
Let's check the answer.
[Out of the rankings]
It's so close to the top answer for women--
So close!
So very close.
'When I didn't feel that certainty with him/her, I felt an attraction toward another person.'
- If you go a little further... - [Ah!]
Going on blind dates when you are seeing someone already.
Isn't that shameful?
- Shall we check the answer? - Yes.
Let's check the answer!
[Top answer for women]
'Because I don't feel certain that my boyfriend is the one, I am going on blind dates.'
'I don't talk to my friends about how my boyfriend looks and what he does for a living.'
It's like this, for example.
She's dating Yeon Suk, and she's going on blind dates.
Because you can't be certain about him.
The way he talks about his credit card debt... He is a very good actor, but...
She has a boyfriend like him who gets teary, but she's not sure about marrying him.
In fact, it takes a year for women to decide to marry someone and only 3 months for men.
I read this in a book somewhere.
'Marriage is the best business opportunity for women.'
It's saying the best kind of business women can do is marrying someone.
That's how important marriage is to women.
So would they marry someone like him, or... someone who has his common sense intact?
For dating, Yeon Suk is a better choice, but if you need someone
you can trust and depend on, it's better to marry In Kwon.
You said being on this show will improve my public image...
Did I?
- What do I do now? - What do you mean, what do you do?
[Is he a springboard for my success... or for my failure?]
Don't you think, if you are confident as her guy, you will tell her to go on blind dates?
'I am confident, so you go date anyone you want,' like this.
My cousin once... What?
He has so much life experience for his age.
[He's a 30-year-old with a life experience of an 80-year-old]
They were in love for ten years, but because he didn't have a job...
their parents didn't allow them to get married.
That went on for a while.
My cousin, she had a job and she came across someone she liked.
It weighed a lot on her, but finally she told him about it.
'I have a guy I have some feelings for. He is working at the same company
as I am. What do you want me to do?'
And her boyfriend told her...
'Then, go date him. I'll wait for you right here.'
- He wanted her to marry that guy? - No, no.
No, he didn't mean that.
- He wanted her to date that guy. - Ah...
When she heard that and dated the guy at her workplace...
I couldn't help but think of her boyfriend.
Yes, if a man is confident about himself, he can do that.
- So, what happened after that? - And...
my grandfather passed away a couple months ago.
She wanted to get married while he was alive, but she couldn't.
On the day of my grandfather's funeral, she got a phone call from her boyfriend.
'I got a job.'
My cousin cried her eyes out and said that her grandfather helped him get a job.
They are getting married in October of this year.
He got a job after ten years.
If her boyfriend tried to stop her, she might have left him.
- I think that's how women are. - Yes we are.
- He is such a player. - He is.
He's turning every life experience into a story he can tell on TV.
It's a new paradigm.
[It's a new paradigm]
What kind of man do you want to marry?
Out of 5 guys here, who would you like to marry? Based solely on our appearance.
Based on appearance? I would marry Mr. Dong Yup.
I said 'Mr. Dong Yup.'
Call me Dong Yup.
It's the first time anyone chose him based on his looks.
- Come on. - They talk about his wit and jokes.
- I've never heard it since I was born. - What are you talking about?!
How about Jong Shin as a potential husband?
- I would date him. - You would date him?
He's only for dating, for sure.
You never know. What do you think?
I am not even interested.
[Respect personal preferences]
What kind of movie is 'Nation's Singing Contest?'
It's a heart-warming movie for your entire family.
[Mr. Lee's heart-warming conclusion?!]
I think women do something like this.
My wife criticized a lady who wore a brand name dress, saying, 'What is that?'
'Why would anyone buy that?'
A day passed and a thought came to my mind.
'Ah, she wants me to buy it for her.'
'Why would anyone buy that? It might keep you warm, but...'
That's the part she doesn't say out loud.
When I turned on my laptop, I saw my wife had put a pic of a handbag as the wallpaper.
She set it up to try to tell me that she wants it.
She brings home a designer handbag and says, 'It's a little old, but it's pretty...'
Makes me feel anxious.
From a husband's perceptive, it might look a little shameful.
When they keep beating around the bush instead of telling us they want it.
- Yes, things like that. - This is why husbands come home late.
[It's a cowardly excuse!]
Could I tell you another story?
[You still have more...?]
When I go watch a movie and it turns out the movie is so well-made, I feel very jealous.
- Of the director? - No, of the movie.
Of the movie?
So that's why I badmouth a lot about those movies.
I bring up a lot of weird criticism that no one else can even imagine.
After watching 'The Thieves,' I said...
'How come thieves are so good at speaking foreign languages?'
What did you think of 'Masquerade?'
I enjoyed 'Masquerade' because my In Kwon was in it.
[There is some reason and rhyme to his evaluation]
Recently, there was a movie titled 'The Gift In Street Number One?'
You mean, 'The Gift In Room Number Seven.'
This is how you do it?
These are subtle ways of dissing something.
How could a child go to prison?
It just doesn't make any sense.
Those are the things I say.
'Does it make sense?' People around me say nothing.
'Doesn't make sense! How could a man facing the death penalty bring a child along to prison?'
'It's crazy. It can't be,' I tell people.
- But you do watch them, right? - I do and diss every single one of them.
[He is a big fan after all!]
It sounds like a troll who leaves hate comments.
I am just saying... it doesn't make sense.
As a movie producer, feeling jealous about the movies that are successful...
When they are more successful than mine, and...
When I can't replicate the genius someone showed
in their work, it could make me a little mean.
Don't you worship them instead when they are ultra-successful?
- Um... - And become friends with them?
A technical expression for it is, 'I lower my tail.'
I lower my tail all the way down, all the way down.
When I watch Dong Yup hosting a show, he has a very good sense of comedic wit.
Sometimes I get surprised by him.
That's why I don't watch the shows that Dong Yup hosts.
Because if I watch them, I am afraid I might lose my self-confidence.
I don't watch shows that are hosted by someone better than me, honestly speaking.
[So honest...]
So I've never watched Hwasin before.
[You are listening to an MC of 'Healing Camp' hand out biting remarks]
When I watch entertainment news programs...
and when they report that so many people gather to see a celebrity...
- I can't bear to watch it. - How come?
I wonder about myself.
- Feeling deprived by comparison? - Yes.
'The things that don't happen to me?'
Yes, I wouldn't even be able to get a seat anyway.
Because I lost a sense of direction after being shoved aside by someone's fans.
Maybe because of that, I couldn't bear to watch entertainment news shows.
Makes you feel small.
When a star enlists in the military or gets discharged, so many fans come to see him.
They go to see him and take lots of pictures.
- From overseas as well. - That's what I am saying.
Nobody visited me when I reported for military service, and same thing when I got discharged.
I hope they cancel entertainment news shows.
What do you mean cancel them?
[I am sorry... 'One Night TV Entertainment News']
The boyfriends I went out with before I was 25 years old were all good-for-nothings.
They got jealous of me.
When people around me praised me and I did a very good job in a movie...
One told me, 'I don't think it was that good.'
When I heard that, I hated it so much and thought, 'How could he say that to me?'
He was also an actor, right?
That's why he became jealous.
Because nobody hired him.
'I always get rejected.'
In the beginning, I thought I should work harder so that he'd be pleased by it.
- 'I'll be in another movie,' I told him. - 'Would it be successful?' he replied.
He crossed the line a little. I think his career wasn't working.
What is that about when a man...
He wanted to break up with her.
- Really? - He's dissing you to break up with you.
- He was dropping hints. - Giving her hints.
Was he? And I broke up with him via email...
Is he doing better? A little better... or...
[No idea what to say]
It's okay to be honest without saying his name.
I don't think it worked out for him.
I hope he does better... I am sure he will...
- Did you go out with an actor in training? - No, no.
[Hyun Kyung is zany, honest, and charming!]
- Do you want to check your answer? - Yes.
'I've felt jealous of my girlfriend's success.'
Let's check the answer.
[27th place for women]
'When she worked hard and achieved success, I felt jealous and said, 'Aren't you a lucky one?'
- The guy said that? - Yes.
I've talked about this quite often as well on 'Healing Camp.'
Because there are so many geniuses around me--
Don't say it in general, like you're talking about everyone...
Don't just walk away from this.
I realized early in my life that... instead of
feeling jealous of someone's talent, it'd be better to use it.
'Shin Dong Yup, he is so good at talking. So, instead of feeling jealous, let's befriend him.'
I became his drinking buddy starting in 2002.
I became his drinking buddy slowly and slowly.
I used his style after watching him on TV.
That's when you are being obsequious.
It's cowardly to talk about someone behind their back.
- We need to be obsequious at times. - We do.
One of the reasons why I am still an active TV personality is because I was a little obsequious.
Everyone needs to have some obsequiousness.
Of course.
Every father in Korea needs to have some obsequiousness.
For your family, kids, and wife...
In order to provide for our kids, we endure it all, you know?
Is there any other reason for drinking?
Making a living is hard and worrisome and it's impossible to face the world without alcohol.
Should we get obsequious again today?
Hyun Kyung, you took out a student loan when you were 20 years old?
Yes, I took out a student loan...
You did.
Because my family had debt, I took out a student loan to
go to school and I worked and paid off some of the debt.
When I had an acting job, I had money to feed myself, but...
when I didn't have an acting job, I had no money.
- That's the reality. - That's how it is for actors.
That's why he said we are fool's gold.
There is truth to that.
Did you do a lot of part-time jobs?
Yes, I did part-time work even when I had an acting job.
- What did you do? - I worked at a coffee shop.
- I worked at a restaurant as well. - Did you worry people might recognize you?
I am very near-sighted, so I wear thick glasses.
- How long did you do that? - Until I was 23 years old, I think...
- While working as an actress? - Yes.
When I was working on a TV drama, they set aside specific
days for filming, so I had a part-time job during weekends.
If I was working on Saturdays--
You were a server at a restaurant?
I wore my thick glasses on purpose.
I wore scruffy clothing too.
People asked, 'Aren't you a TV personality?' I'd say, 'No, I am not.'
'Aren't you Ryu Hyun Kyung?' they'd ask me.
- They could recognize you. - They did.
I was doing the dishes and one of my co-workers asked me
'So are you happy they told you that you look like a celebrity?' She didn't know who I was.
After a few days, the owner asked me if I could not wear my glasses.
'How come?' I asked him.
'You need to look clean and neat but you look too scruffy.'
'But I am wearing an apron. I'll just do dishes from now on,' I told him.
A week later he fired me because I didn't dress properly.
- Because of the dress code? - Yes.
You worked at a restaurant and a coffee shop...
- I worked at an office as well. - At an office?
What's so unusual about it is...
I am great friends with the president of my fan club.
- Your fan club, Hyun Kyung? - She's the president of my fan club.
Please slow it down. We aren't prepared yet.
[Her stories gets more and more unexpected and unusual]
At the time we were great friends, and so when I told her
about my situation, she let me work for her.
That's why you should be good to your fans, Hyun Kyung.
I think you shouldn't ever turn your back on your fans, Hyun Kyung.
I worked on Excel spreadsheets for her.
You worked on Excel spreadsheets.
I organized the list of my fans, and she paid me 200,000 won.
So your fan hired you?
I am still very good friends with her.
- She's older than you? - Yes, she is.
Girl, I love you. I don't think I could've made it without you.
The first fan ever to hire a celebrity that she liked.
- 'How big of a fan are you?' - 'I hired a celebrity that I like very much.'
- Never heard anything like that. - So true.
I think it could be a great story for the 'How Could This Happen?' show.
Look closely when your fan gives you their card. They might work for a big company.
From now on, I'll tell my fans, 'You didn't even give me a job.'
It somehow turned into a 'who had it the worst' talk.
I once ate bread that was wet with tears.
Putting up posters was my job once. They paid me 3,000 to 4,000 won an hour.
I wanted to eat a doughnut so bad.
One that has a lot of sugar and powdered sugar on it.
I was eating it sitting down on a staircase in a building somewhere.
I took a bite and I calculated how much I needed to work for it.
'This doughnut costs 1,800 won, so eating this is equal to eating 30 minutes of my hourly pay.'
I thought that whenever I took a bite.
It was like I was eating my hard work.
I felt so sad. That was my bread that was wet with tears.
Have you done any other work?
I was once being obsequious when I worked for Kyung Kyu.
Me?
- The ___ kimbab. - He meant he delivered kimbab.
I delivered them.
- Ah, really? - Yes.
You were still an actor, right?
- 'Trout.' - It was after you starred in 'Trout.'
After I starred in it, I wasn't very well-known.
I delivered kimbab and I wanted to eat them so bad.
- When you were delivering? - Once I unwrapped it and ate one of them.
- Did you wrap it back? - I did...
[Perfect Crime!]
Was it really delicious when you ate that one piece of kimbab?
I swallowed it. I still remember.
I didn't even chew it. 'I shouldn't have done this,' so I swallowed it.
'Ah, I should've chewed it first.'
Did you take one out in the middle and then push from both ends?
- You re-arranged it? - Yes.
When one piece is missing out of 13 pieces, they wouldn't notice it, right?
'Why is this one a little shorter?'
Anyway, you had an experience like that.
- Should I give you a hint? - We gave away a good hint.
'So cold! Dong Yup, when did you become so cold?'
'No, I am not such a cold person.'
He's so good at it.
We already talked about it.
You mentioned it.
When a man doesn't love her anymore and doesn't tell her about it.
- Keeping things as they are. - Why do men do that?
- Because we can't bring it up. - Stupid...
Hyun Kyung answered, 'Because they are stupid...'
'Because I just disappear on him, why not do that? Stupid.'
Let's check the answer!
[Top answer for men]
I have the top answer for men.
- It's the top answer for men? - Yes.
Men are... indecisive.
'I continue on with the relationship when I don't love her anymore.'
If you call that acting cowardly... this might cause a spark in divorce rate.
That why we register our marriage.
It becomes a matter of law now because it's a part of living in society.
We remain married even if the love is gone because it has legal authority.
Because you have a family, you can't just call it quits and that's why we register our marriage.
However, it could happen between unmarried men and women.
You should hold onto your current one until you find another one even if the love is gone.
So disgraceful.
Don't hate me and say I'm disgraceful.
It's a very famous song. Do you know what's next in the lyrics?
Even if I wander through a dirty backstreet.
I feel happy because you are with me, the one who embraced me with all my sadness.
Embraced me with all my sadness.
It says he's happy because she's unconditionally accepting.
Before you criticize someone for acting disgracefully
I think there is no reason for anyone to act shamefully if you
understand and embrace the reason why they might act that way.
[Hwasin]
[What's that one line that changed your life?]
[Next week on Hwasin]
Top radio DJs for SBS.
- An escape at 2pm! - 'Cultwo show!'
Hi, this is Choi Hwa Jeong's 'Power Time.' It's Choi Hwa Jeong.
I would like to enjoy it with you.
Today on Hwasin, let's start the Power FM DJs special.
[Top talkers are in one place!]
My one line is... Mine is...
The reason why I became a comedian is because I got into a fight.
I am the one who hit him.
Hee Sun is saying a lot of strange things today.
It's hard to avoid you.
Hee Sun, why would you do that to me after 15 years?
'How could you do that to me?'
- 'I am sorry...' - 'I thought you were joking.'
Watch this channel on Tuesday nights!
[Next week! An even newer Hwasin comes to you!]